Michael Hyatt suggests these 5 ways to take control your life story in your head:
- Recognize the voice in your head. It doesn’t matter where it is coming from (your parents, a teacher, an abusive spouse); just recognize that it is happening.
- Jot down what the voice is saying. It might be something like:
- “You’re too young.”
- “You’re too old.”
- “You’re uneducated.”
- “You’re over-educated.”
- “You don’t have enough experience.”
- “You don’t have the right experience.”
This could be literally anything. Listen carefully and write it down word-for-word.
- Evaluate whether this story is empowering. Is it enabling you to accomplish the outcomes you want or is it preventing you from doing so. Be honest. (Sometimes, people are addicted to their problems and the stories that create them.)
- Write down a different story. I’m not talking about a bunch of positive thinking mumbo jumbo. I am talking about telling yourself the truth. And often, this is simply a matter of shifting your perspective.
- Start telling yourself the new story. Every time your inner narrator begins telling the old yarn, stop him. Say, “No! That’s baloney. Here’s the truth.” Then repeat your new story.
How do you want your life story be? Start writing the new one now!